For most women the challenge of living through Mother’s Day joyfully each year is pretty much like getting out of Target without spending at least one hundred and seventy-nine dollars. It’s a unicorn. A pipe dream.
It tends to bring up ALL OF THE FEELS. Yes, joy, but also, lament, shame, longing, anger, fatigue…
There are single women who long to have a husband and kids, and married women trying desperately to get pregnant when each month, they cry in the bathroom with evidence that denies it.
There are kids of all ages who have lost their mothers, or have strained relationships with their moms.
There are moms with kids who are prodigals, far from home, and moms whose children have died, and mothers whose kids are struggling with emotional, physical, or intellectual challenges.
There are mamas who are overwhelmed with littles, who feel like every other mom is Mary Poppins, and they’re the only one without a magical carpet bag of tricks.
And others who feel guilty that they should feel more grateful, but Just. Feel. Tired.
These are legit.
Jesus says “Come to Me… with all of it. I am your safe place, your refuge, your cheerleader, your comforter. And like a loving parent holding us, He pats us gently and says “I’m here…I’m here…It’s gonna be ok. You’re doing great. Just hang on.”
Maybe we could find some way to say that to each other this Mother’s Day?
So well stated. It is a day that varies from woman to woman just as certainly as we have been created uniquely by God. My heart will always remember the season of longing for a child and waiting until it was God’s time for that blessing.
A rich blessing indeed, times two, now men but forever in my heart “my boys”.
So hard, in the moment, in the waiting, in the questioning, to accept the unique story God is writing in each of us. Thanks for sharing Su!
Thank you, Laura, for calling out the reality that like many holidays, mother’s day can be hard. Different things to grieve and to celebrate in different seasons… Ever evolving. Thank you for your continued blogging, it is a blessing!
So thankful we’ve been able to walk the road together Kari!